Are you having trouble achieving all your goals? If you are not doing some of the things you know you should be doing, you may be a victim of self-sabotage. Here are some examples and ways to effect change.
Problem: Thinking and speaking a lot about what is going wrong can make you feel dissatisfied and dampen your sense of purpose and ambition. Start to notice how often you speak about things that are not working.
Action: Instead ask yourself each morning, "What is going right in my life and my business?" Begin to notice all the things, no matter how small, that are working well. Keep a journal and write them down each day. Program your mind to focus most on the positive things in your life!
Problem: Do you worry a lot about the future and what might happen? Are you thinking about your fears so much that you are paralyzed and take no action because of what might or could occur?
Action: In previous columns we have discussed F.E.A.R. as an acronym for “False Expectations Appearing Real.” It is time to focus on the present. We can't control or predict the future or other people's behavior. We can control our own actions, right here, right now. Ask yourself "What is the worst thing that could happen?" Then, let go and know that it isn't in your hands to control the future and rarely does the scenario we create in our mind actually occur. Use the Serenity Prayer as your guide. Write down the things you cannot change, the things you want the courage to change, and accept your guiding spirit as the ultimate guide. Relax and trust that the Universe will take care of you. It always does!
Problem: Do you forget all your accomplishments and lack pride in who you are and what you have accomplished? If you fret about the past or your lack of success or lack of goal achievement, then you are constantly reminding yourself of your imperfections. When you criticize yourself or can't accept compliments, you aren't allowing yourself to love and appreciate YOU!
Action: You can choose to notice what you do that is good; the things you are proud of, no matter how small it may seem. Each day keep a log of things for which you are grateful. When you hear your "inner voice” focusing on what you have not done well, turn down the volume and turn up the volume to hear the voice that knows the TRUTH about who you are and how you add value to the world! Acknowledge and compliment yourself for at least five things each day that you did well and you feel good about. Highlight your small successes and accept compliments from others. Take pride in and gain positive momentum from both your small and big accomplishments each and every day!
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